As a wedding planner, there is nothing that irkes me more than hearing brides question “Do I have to do (insert typical wedding tradition)???”
Of course not!!!
Brides – listen up. It’s simple, really – your wedding is just that…yours. No one is making you do anything, you don’t have to obey every typical “wedding industry” standard, your wedding doesn’t have to be like your mothers, or your sisters or your best friend’s.
Sure – there are plenty of western-culture traditions that people have come to know and love at weddings. You’ve got your unity candle, your walk with your dad, your wedding cake, first dance and garter toss. But these aren’t rules are guidelines – they are just something that someone started at some point and everyone else thought they were fitting for their wedding as well.
Now, I’m a pretty traditional, classic girl. But even I know better than to make your wedding a copy-cat event and do things that don’t make your event truly represent you. Please don’t get caught up in the wedding industry “standars” and think you have to do all of those things. Find an alternative, don’t include it or do it because you love it (or your mother will disown you if you don’t – it may not be worth it!).
So here’s to weddings that reflect your true personality and values!